Resolving or Rehearsing Anger

Are you overly reactive to your partner’s anger? Do you react with defensiveness or hostility?

Are you ready to change your strategy and move toward resolution?

Next time your partner says something that triggers you, resist the temptation to play that game. If you can—walk away. If you can’t, respectfully say, “I can’t respond to that right now.” Give yourself time to release your hostility when you’re alone. Get yourself balanced and centered. After you have regained your composure, adopt an observer role and revisit the issue. If they recount, “I’m still angry with you…” keep your cool and do not react. Let it be okay for them to have their emotions. Role-model for them the behavior you would like them to reciprocate when you are upset. After your partner decompresses, agree to discuss the situation with ground rules. Don’t be afraid to seek professional support if you need an objective point of view.

The bottom line is that fighting anger with anger (‘right fighting’) only escalates the problem. Do you want resolution or do you need to be ‘right’? You choose.

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